Approaching Women: Some Internal Barrier Solutions

The first step to meet and potentially attract girls is approaching them or starting a conversation with them. For a lot of guys, this is not easy. Approaching random women can most of the time be technically simple but as humans we experience these internal(mental and emotional) barriers that keep us from doing it. Fortunately, I have some things you can do to help eliminate those emotional barriers that stop you from approaching that attractive girl in front of you.

Outcome Detachment

Are waiting for that perfect moment to approach her? or Are you still trying to come up with the perfect approach? Well, guess what.. That approach won’t happen at all and the next thing you know, it’s either she’s out of your sight or some other guy approached her already. So detach yourself from that fantasy approach in your mind and allow unpredictable variables to come when you do the approach. Take the risk.  Afterall, risk takers are attractive.

Dropping the Ego

One of my biggest personal breakthroughs. IMO the ego comes from the wanting to get approval from other people. Like when you were a kid, you try to pretend like superman and people laughed at you and from that moment you became too much cautious in all of your actions so people won’t disapprove of you. Well, I’m going to be honest, other people might disapprove of you when you approach women. Other people might laugh at you, or the girl might reject you but it won’t hurt you except your ego. In my experience, dropping your ego makes you attractive since it takes a real man to drop his ego down.

Being Non-Prejudgemental

Remember a time when you don’t want to talk to someone the first time you see them because your impression tells you that they’re snobbish, or rude. Well, you were most probably prejudging. Making personal judgements about people and that attractive woman right in front of you even without personally getting to know them first can limit you bigtime. It can stop you from having the motivation to approach that woman you like in the first place. And prejudging can also help you open up other possibilities not just in meeting women but also in life.

Having fun

Doing a certain task becomes easy when you’re having fun and that includes approaching women. So before you go out to meet women play your favorite game, talk to your bestfriend or do something that can psyche you up. Having a fun vibe is not just attractive to women but to people in general as well.

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